Back up in case of a break up?

Do you know that your backup plan can lead to the break up of your existing relationship? (Especially in open relationships.) Marriage counselors will always advise building a relationship on 'trust' because many relationships break because of distrust chiefly caused by infidelity and insincerity. Does a backup plan amount to infidelity?

Infidelity can be broadly defined as the breaking of a promise in a romantic relationship, whether such promise was a part of a marriage vow, a privately uttered agreement between the lovers, or an unspoken assumption. With this definition, it is quite clear that keeping a secret 'back up' relationship amounts to infidelity in a committed relationship.

Heartbreak is a bitter experience many persons don't want to experience, hence their reasons for a backup plan. However, wouldn't it be foolish if you are the architect of your own heartbreak by keeping 'secret relationships' that eventually break your relationship? Except unless, if your partner is cool with your 'backup' plan, which if he/she is, then it can be said to be a very unserious relationship.

Why not spend the energy that would have been exerted in maintaining a backup relationship to ensure that the main relationship doesn't break up. Do not keep backup plans! Take it one at a time, even in case of a breakup, heal and move to another. It takes commitment, dedication, and prayers to make a relationship work, so give it all three and wish for the best.

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U.I Awo Hall Executives (Team Standard 2018) Cleared of Alleged Misappropriation of Funds

The two-year war that raged between the executive members (2018/19) of the Obafemi Awolowo hall (Awo Hall) University of Ibadan and the allegations laid against them by their Hall Warden has been settled, with the executive members exonerated of all charges. It was gathered that the excos had been alleged of misappropriation of funds and lack of accountability by the hall warden Dr. Mrs. Adedoyin Aguoru, which led to the dissolution of the executive body and a taint on the personalities of the executive members. In a joint letter signed by the president and made public by the executive members, it was made clear the proceedings from the investigation and the eventual acquital verdict given by the Students Affairs Division of the University. Below is the content of the letter: Re: Misappropriation of Funds and Lack of Accountability This is an avenue to state in clear terms the true state of affairs during our tenure as Hall Executives other than allowing the earlier false impres

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Micra hit your car, you dey form Americana.. e be like say this woman na JJC for Ibadan.. she never learn how Ibadan women dey handle car bashing... Dem go first remove their shoe (most don't even drive with shoes anyway).. after that they will run out of the car very seriously towards the person that bashed them as if they'll cause some havoc, na lie o.. then they will start struggling with their phone either to call someone or to want to take picture of the plate number.. then they will stand in front of the car shouting, claiming all the rights wey no even dey road safety manual... This woman still dey there speaking fone.. issokay! Madam you go need spice this your Americana fone with small craze ni o.. na combo fit do am o.

Insecurity in Oyo State: Towards a safer Oyo State.

Blame game/Opposition game A wise man once said, "When you keep blaming others for every situation you're in, someday you’ll begin to look like you’re the mistake all along". This holds true of our politicians in Nigeria. When a new government spend a good portion of its administration to point fingers on the failures or bad gimmicks of the old/displaced government instead of thinking outside the box to proffer solutions to the dilemma at hand, soon they will start to appear incompetent and an excuse seeker. Blame game has been a sad trend in our polity in this country. The APC government at the federal level elected in 2015 spent their entire first term blaming the deposed PDP government for insurgency and insecurity. Yeah, this state of insecurity ended the PDP reign of 16 years and the same is about to end the APC reign because they've also failed to keep the nation secured. They are now a victim of the situation that brought them to be. I hope this same trend won

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