So how can one start to build a strong relationship? Like constructing a treehouse, building a strong relationship that will result in a glorious marriage takes some careful actions.
The ideal dream:It all starts with a dream of the ideal life we desire. My friend and I dreamt of a treehouse where we could take naps when bored and we had a pictorial vision of what it will look like in mind. Similarly, couples aspiring to go into marital relationship must have a mental dream of the ideal home they wish to build. The passion for this dream must be so strong enough to push them into actualizing it.
The architectural plan:At this juncture some pertinent questions must be answered: "what will it take to achieve the ideal dream"? It is time to put the mental vision into pictorial sketch in an architectural framework. This helps us understand the possibility of the dream and the materials needed for its actualization. Architectural plans can be simple and can also get really complex like the Burj Al Arab, but no matter how complex, they all serve the same job to shape a structure in the safest habitable way. Similarly, every intending couple must bring their dreams to the table of reality. That is they must ask themselves some pertinent questions. What is the plan? Am I fit for the marital dream? Do I have what it takes? If not, what must I do more?
The architectural design:The architectural plan for the tree house project was very simple and straight to the point. The major essence of the design was to guide the construction and ensure the builders don’t deviate from the desired design. Every detail has been put into design according to the purpose for which the structure is being put up and so must the construction be done. So also couples design marriage may be as simple as possible. It could be a design that ensures the couples remain friends no matter what. It could just be a book of rules between the two engaged individuals to ensure no one crosses outside the line of the marital structure. It could go complex embargo barring certain activities between both partners. Whatever it is, the design that works for Mr. A may not work for Mr. B, so it is pertinent for Mr. B (and/or A) to understand the best design or structure that works best for them in their relationship.
In the bush:This was the time we went to a nearby bush to get the needed materials (tree cuts, branches etc) for our construction. It was the time for pruning, trimming, and gathering the desired materials for construction. Similarly, this is the time for couples to seek to acquire the right attitude, and character needed for the relationship.
In the next article we will delve into the construction phase!
Tayo Okanlawon
So how can one start to build a strong relationship? Like constructing a treehouse, building a strong relationship that will result in a glorious marriage takes some careful actions.
The ideal dream:It all starts with a dream of the ideal life we desire. My friend and I dreamt of a treehouse where we could take naps when bored and we had a pictorial vision of what it will look like in mind. Similarly, couples aspiring to go into marital relationship must have a mental dream of the ideal home they wish to build. The passion for this dream must be so strong enough to push them into actualizing it.
The architectural plan:At this juncture some pertinent questions must be answered: "what will it take to achieve the ideal dream"? It is time to put the mental vision into pictorial sketch in an architectural framework. This helps us understand the possibility of the dream and the materials needed for its actualization. Architectural plans can be simple and can also get really complex like the Burj Al Arab, but no matter how complex, they all serve the same job to shape a structure in the safest habitable way. Similarly, every intending couple must bring their dreams to the table of reality. That is they must ask themselves some pertinent questions. What is the plan? Am I fit for the marital dream? Do I have what it takes? If not, what must I do more?
The architectural design:The architectural plan for the tree house project was very simple and straight to the point. The major essence of the design was to guide the construction and ensure the builders don’t deviate from the desired design. Every detail has been put into design according to the purpose for which the structure is being put up and so must the construction be done. So also couples design marriage may be as simple as possible. It could be a design that ensures the couples remain friends no matter what. It could just be a book of rules between the two engaged individuals to ensure no one crosses outside the line of the marital structure. It could go complex embargo barring certain activities between both partners. Whatever it is, the design that works for Mr. A may not work for Mr. B, so it is pertinent for Mr. B (and/or A) to understand the best design or structure that works best for them in their relationship.
In the bush:This was the time we went to a nearby bush to get the needed materials (tree cuts, branches etc) for our construction. It was the time for pruning, trimming, and gathering the desired materials for construction. Similarly, this is the time for couples to seek to acquire the right attitude, and character needed for the relationship.
In the next article we will delve into the construction phase!
Tayo Okanlawon
Tayo Okanlawon
Very inspiring
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