Relationship advice: Building a strong Relationship

The treehouse

I had once built a tree-house with a childhood friend of mine during one of our idle moments years back. We exerted a lot of energy into pulling down tree branches and gathering planks needed for the structure. The lessons learned during the course of the project teaches a lot about building and maintaining strong relationships.

The Excitement:

First, we were excited by the fun of having a treehouse that we began to discuss so many things we will do inside the treehouse when it is completed. We had chosen a huge mango tree in my friend’s compound to host the treehouse.

We were too carried away with the frenzy of having a treehouse that we went straight into the construction without any architectural plans on how to actualize our tree-house dream on the awkwardly shaped mango tree we had chosen. We were soon besotted with a lot of challenges when the construction began.

No matter how hard we tried to use our ‘by the moment’ thinking to fit the planks together, the structure kept collapsing on the tree. Not until we resolved to go back to the drawing board to map out an architectural design of how the house will fit on the tree, and then to trim the planks and tree branches to the specifications that will fit on the tree, did we record some success on the project.

Similarly, many young couples are too excited about the wedding and the preparation for the ceremony that they fail to plan for marriage itself. Marriage is not a haphazard project that one jumbles into to do guess works. It requires careful preparation and planning. It is like building a house, it takes some planning starting with deciding what the marriage will be founded upon so that its architectural plan can have the best details.

The architectural Plan

We will discuss this in the next article.

-Tayo Okanlawon

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U.I Awo Hall Executives (Team Standard 2018) Cleared of Alleged Misappropriation of Funds

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