Objective Gist

So how can one start to build a strong relationship? Like constructing a treehouse, building a strong relationship that will result in a glorious marriage takes some careful actions. The ideal dream: It all starts with a dream of the ideal life we desire. My friend and I dreamt of a treehouse where we could take naps when bored and we had a pictorial vision of what it will look like in mind. Similarly, couples aspiring to go into marital relationship must have a mental dream of the ideal home they wish to build. The passion for this dream must be so strong enough to push them into actualizing it. The architectural plan: At this juncture some pertinent questions must be answered: "what will it take to achieve the ideal dream"? It is time to put the mental vision into pictorial sketch in an architectural framework. This helps us understand the possibility of the dream and the materials needed for its actualization. Architectural plans can be simple and can also get

Once beaten twice shy Twice beaten is why I cry what fate is mine under the sky If love thirsts to make me cry Twice daggered at the junction of fate There is canal bleeding at Love's gate Many souls are cast towards losing faith What faith can condone this bloody fate Say me well to earthly love For I am done with its immoral bluffs Say me well to mortal love I have had enough of its rip offs As I sty off thy streets May tears stay off my cheeks As I take on a clean love sheet May my sour love become sweet Tayo Okanlawon

We all know about the "friend zone", yeah it is the popular one of all zones. There is the brother zone, Pastor zone, Uncle zone and now I hear there is a "brother-in-love" zone...wow! O ye brothers accept my condolences with these "zoning" heartbreaks. Just when a man thinks he is making headways with the relationship, ladies come up with all sort of zones. The latest one is what 'shook' me most. How can you call someone "brother-in-love"? It seems ladies nowadays are not ready or willing to commit to a serious relationship anymore. Or what is the reason for these zone boxes they put men into? What do you think pls? Tayo Okanlawon

I've heard some Christian brothers saying they got a revelation of who to marry in a dream. So I tried it out too My prayer was simple and straight forward, “Lord show me my wife”, then off to bed I went expectant to see her in a dream. Did she come in a dream? Unfortunately there was no dream that night or the following nights for the rest of the week. It was a week of grave spiritual silence with no clues received as regards the requested revelation. This marked the beginning of the quest for the revelatory dream for the divinely chosen woman, expecting her disclosure in a revelatory ‘Indian-movie-like’ dream. Don’t blame me for waiting on a dream to receive the revelation. Having heard tales of men getting convinced on whom to marry after seeing their wives-to-be in a dream especially by a well or spring, with such woman serving them a cup of water in the dream, many of us also seek such manner of confirmation on whom to marry. Hilarious right? Whether true or not, mos

We agree that there is only one Almighty God that Christians and Muslims serve. But when it comes to the matter of marriage, it is 'haram' for the Muslims and the Christians also see it as 'unequally yoke' marrying from the other religion. One quick fact I must establish is that Christian couples can be unequally yoked too. It doesn't have to be with a Muslim-Christian combination before couples are "unequally yoked" How? Read more The concept of unequal yoking is derived from the farming practice of yoking animals with farm machinery for farm work. A pair of oxen (or other animal) pull the wooden beam. The idea is to pair two animals of equal strength, size and type together. If the animals are not of the same strength and size, the weaker one is not only going to slow the stronger down but also in danger of death (if the stronger fails to slow down). With this conceptual explanation, it can be put forward that a christian couple can be unequal

For sometime now there has been argument on choosing a life partner as a Christian. Many Christian brothers are looking for divine confirmation of who to marry while some are just following their heart to make the choice. Speaking with a married Christian brother on the issue, here is what he has to say: "If I had known the choice was mine to make... I had lost a lot of potentials who waited for me to pop the question while I was waiting to hear a divine voice to tell me who exactly, the brother said. So how did you eventually make the choice, I asked. "I just choose the person my spirit went with", he responded. The question remains who's choice is it? And what role does God play in it. To answer the question point blank, the choice is yours to make, God's role is to guide you or bring you to the right person. You can choose to accept who God brings or not, it is all your choice. -Tayo Okanlawon Drop your view on the matter in the comments box.

"He must be tall, handsome, rich, driving a car and with a well posh house", she said. I simply smiled and asked her, in short you need a ready made husband? So what are you bringing to the table then? What do you have to offer him? She squints her eyes at me before replying..."like hot romance, I'll satisfy him with my body', she said. Is that all? I asked, but she was clueless how to answer the question. I guess she must have been thinking 'what else'.. Please what more can a woman bring to the table in a relationship? Drop your comments. -TAYO Okanlawon

I never knew she was double dating. I felt foolish finding out the way I did, and I felt more foolish when my friends told me they couldn't believe I did not see the truth all the while we dated. They didn't want to be the breakers of the bad news, so they let me be. Mr. B said bitterly. My Response: (Thinking aloud) If only he knows that I've unknowingly been an "assistant boyfriend" before too... What advice can I give this new comrade now? Lols. Add this experience to your CV, I told him. Every experience is a lesson.  Learn from it and move on. One day you will present that resume and the world will bow in respect. Though finding out may be painful but you really need to move on. She may plead and claim the other person was a side gig, but you never can trust her on that cos she may be playing the same story at the other side too. But if you're sure she is sincerely in love with you and she's sober of her action indeed, then you may consider a

I'm in love with two ladies. I'm confused who to go for. You need to see their pictures, you too will be confused, the young man said to me. My Response: (Sarcastically) Bros, don't bring me into your confusion. Even  as I am yet to see the pictures of the ladies, I can already tell you're "slayed". And when eventually I saw the pics, my premonition was confirmed. He was staring at two busty, half nude slay queens. Why wouldn't you be confused? This isn't love at work but lust. There is a thin line between lust and love.. yeah the two concepts can be confusing but when the feeling is about the inner beauty and it is beyond the surface/physical (body), it is love. But when it is all about busty attraction to boobs and bums like this, then it is lust in play. So, You're simply in lust with two ladies and you are confused which ass to go for was my conclusion to him. The day you answer the question why you love either of them, and the answer

The treehouse I had once built a tree-house with a childhood friend of mine during one of our idle moments years back. We exerted a lot of energy into pulling down tree branches and gathering planks needed for the structure. The lessons learned during the course of the project teaches a lot about building and maintaining strong relationships. The Excitement: First, we were excited by the fun of having a treehouse that we began to discuss so many things we will do inside the treehouse when it is completed. We had chosen a huge mango tree in my friend’s compound to host the treehouse. We were too carried away with the frenzy of having a treehouse that we went straight into the construction without any architectural plans on how to actualize our tree-house dream on the awkwardly shaped mango tree we had chosen. We were soon besotted with a lot of challenges when the construction began. No matter how hard we tried to use our ‘by the moment’ thinking to fit the planks together,

Just do it! Those are words of encouragement you are likely getting from folks and friends pushing you into marriage. They will advise you to "just do the marriage", you will "SURVIVE" in it. SMH! I will rather tell you, don't 'just do it' in the hope to survive in it. DO IT with preparedness to survive in it. Many have been pushed to jump into marriage but fumble and tumble out of it in regret. If only they had prepared for it. Marriage is a serious institution that requires proper preparation. If only people can prepare for marriage the way they prepare for the wedding ceremony, we would have less of broken marriages. Couples need to lay a solid foundation for marriage before jumping into it. Jump when ready! Those are the words of advice from me to you. Don't be pushed into what you are not adequately prepared for. 'Do it' at your own conviction of readiness. Do not let people pressure you into marriage when you are not ready for